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What's with all the grudges and complaints about encounters from years past on incel forums? I thought these spaces were made to talk about how hard your lives are now. Keep it pushing

Hi. I have suppressed memories.

My brain lost 3 years, I got memoryholes. Sometimes I have dreams where I remember things I lost in time. My default method is I memoryhole an event, it will resurface in my dreams.

Other times, I felt embarrassment. And I didnt talk about it with anyone. But growin older, I dont feel anymore any embarrassment, so I describe the event and Im emotionally detached, so I just recollect the event as it happened and try to remember how Ifelt about it.

Usually, is just an exercise I do to compare my incel growth to what I felt in the moment. Another reason I do it, is simply bcause I believe someone needs to feel like "others feel like me" or "others can relate to me", or "im not alone in this". By providing my lived experience I was thinking to be of service. Just provide my rationalization at times can help someone else rethink his perspective.

Sorry about whatever lead you to having suppressed memories. And it's fab that you're not embarrassed anymore and want other people to feel like you relate or they're more normal. I just think the 'rethinking of perspective' you guys are doing most of the time is just 'it's totally fair that i sit in my room all day being miserable and / or hating women because someone online had a bad experience too' when that's really not fair nor rational.

There's only so much wallowing and self pity you can throw around before people that don't love you get fed tf up. It's ok to let people be alone in their experiences sometimes especially considering This doesn't seem to push you guys to be better people but rather justify your current feelings of hatred and that's just not productive nor beneficial to anyone. Maybe talk to a therapist or someone who Isn't currently trying to justify their misery.

romeowmeow wrote: 31 Mar 2026, 08:39 There's only so much wallowing and self pity you can throw around before people that don't love you get fed tf up. It's ok to let people be alone in their experiences sometimes especially considering This doesn't seem to push you guys to be better people but rather justify your current feelings of hatred and that's just not productive nor beneficial to anyone. Maybe talk to a therapist or someone who Isn't currently trying to justify their misery.

I talked to some therapists. One I met in a redpill group, I was 25 at the time, he was 40. Basically I met him while I was defending an incel, he agreed with me, and we exchanged opinion on foids. That guy had an education similar to mine, overall same approach to schooling so I had lots to agree with him.

I think you believe all therapists are imbeciles who repeat know-it-all assumptions out of reddit. In reallife they tend to have varied viewpoints. Some incels you read on a forum may be therapist themselves.

Sustacel250 wrote: 31 Mar 2026, 08:42

romeowmeow wrote: 31 Mar 2026, 08:39 There's only so much wallowing and self pity you can throw around before people that don't love you get fed tf up. It's ok to let people be alone in their experiences sometimes especially considering This doesn't seem to push you guys to be better people but rather justify your current feelings of hatred and that's just not productive nor beneficial to anyone. Maybe talk to a therapist or someone who Isn't currently trying to justify their misery.

I talked to some therapists. One I met in a redpill group, I was 25 at the time, he was 40. Basically I met him while I was defending an incel, he agreed with me, and we exchanged opinion on foids. That guy had an education similar to mine, overall same approach to schooling so I had lots to agree with him.

I think you believe all therapists are imbeciles who repeat know-it-all assumptions out of reddit. In reallife they tend to have varied viewpoints. Some incels you read on a forum may be therapist themselves.

Why the fuck would you engage with a therapist you met in a redpill group holy fuck you people don't want anything to get better this is what I'm saying about wallowing in your pity and misery. Go to an ACTUAL real life non whateverpill affiliated person and TALK.

romeowmeow wrote: 31 Mar 2026, 08:44 Why the fuck would you engage with a therapist you met in a redpill group holy fuck you people don't want anything to get better this is what I'm saying about wallowing in your pity and misery. Go to an ACTUAL real life non whateverpill affiliated person and TALK.

you dont seem aware. The internet bleeds into "real life". The redpill became mainstream, everyone in the gym knows, talks about it and references it as the reality of life. It was also like this in the 2000s, people have a set of assumptions about gender relationshits.

your goofy message instead seemed to imply therapists are somehow detached from "internet bullshit" but tey arent.

Sustacel250 wrote: 31 Mar 2026, 08:48

romeowmeow wrote: 31 Mar 2026, 08:44 Why the fuck would you engage with a therapist you met in a redpill group holy fuck you people don't want anything to get better this is what I'm saying about wallowing in your pity and misery. Go to an ACTUAL real life non whateverpill affiliated person and TALK.

you dont seem aware. The internet bleeds into "real life". The redpill became mainstream, everyone in the gym knows, talks about it and references it as the reality of life. It was also like this in the 2000s, people have a set of assumptions about gender relationshits.

your goofy message instead seemed to imply therapists are somehow detached from "internet bullshit" but tey arent.

They wouldn't bring it into real, professional therapy sessions unless you brought it up and start going off like a nutjob. Are you reading what I'm writing?

romeowmeow wrote: 31 Mar 2026, 08:52
They wouldn't bring it into real, professional therapy sessions unless you brought it up and start going off like a nutjob. Are you reading what I'm writing?

Incel therapists exist, they are also worldwide famous unlike foid "life coaches" who focus on stupid stuff.

Sustacel250 wrote: 31 Mar 2026, 08:57

romeowmeow wrote: 31 Mar 2026, 08:52
They wouldn't bring it into real, professional therapy sessions unless you brought it up and start going off like a nutjob. Are you reading what I'm writing?

Incel therapists exist, they are also worldwide famous unlike foid "life coaches" who focus on stupid stuff.

Life coaches are for stupid people with money to waste and not only women get nor are life coaches so idk what the 'foid' was for.

romeowmeow wrote: 31 Mar 2026, 08:22 What's with all the grudges and complaints about encounters from years past on incel forums? I thought these spaces were made to talk about how hard your lives are now. Keep it pushing

Our lives in years past are very consistent with our lives now

General Alek wrote: 31 Mar 2026, 09:31

romeowmeow wrote: 31 Mar 2026, 08:22 What's with all the grudges and complaints about encounters from years past on incel forums? I thought these spaces were made to talk about how hard your lives are now. Keep it pushing

Our lives in years past are very consistent with our lives now

Then tell the stories of your lives now not years past